It’s been quite some time since we have left our home to begin our journey as college people(but now again back at home…that too since so long….frustrated….damn this corona shit).Going on this journey each one of us had our fair share with the suffering due to some or the other disappointments.For some it would have been a heartbreak with a person whom they thought would be theirs forever, for some it would be an interview question which robbed them of their only opportunity to earn a work experience at a very good firm, for some break-up with their best friend and for others betrayal from their friends.You must have gone at least with one of it ,isn’t it?
While we may blame the reason of our misery or suffering on some person,some situation or some luck, we too know, deep down, that it is our expectations which let us down, more than the person/situation/luck that we hold responsible.If I tell you not to have any expectations like others always say so, then I will be preaching without practicing, as we are bound to have attachments and expectations from anything or anyone where we have invested our time and efforts.But situations will not always work for us and we will be let down by these things which are dear to us.Your lover may cheat on you or you might develop communication gap over time, you won’t be so lucky in your interviews or your friends will make some choices which will end up disappointing you.
Then you will be engulfed in these clouds of despair and sadness. You will try to find an emotional escape by cursing the person or situation or making excuses.It might also be possible that you will have to pay certain repercussions if there is an important event close to the day where this disappointment will blow to your face.You will start wondering if things would have gone this way or you would have done this instead of that, then things would have been in your favour. But ask yourself again,is this really what you desire? Life is about ups and downs and not all ups!People take this line as any other day-to-day sentence that when given the opportunity (yes, I am saying opportunity) they will do everything in their power to avoid it.When life is giving you certain happy moments, make the most of it,enjoy them to your best, because you only have one shot at life(Ohh how much I love this word….LIFE). But the question which most of you will be asking is….if life gives us certain experiences, bad ones, then how should we react to it?
So,what should we do?Analyze what you are going through and what do you want to do about it. While most of you will say cursing is the best way, I have some other views. While cursing may bring you temporary relief, it will not heal your wound. Matters of heart are quite complex, or is it the other way so? Well, I guess it is both! So again coming back to it, but with some improvement, as cursing brings you temporary relief, you will start finding solace in this activity, to a point that it will become your habit to curse. You will start getting negative vibes from our own self, (and that’s the last thing any of us want to hear,right?) so much that you will begin to despise yourself is you don’t put a full stop at the right time.
If I will be given the choice of erasing my bad experiences and replacing them with something else, I will not do so. I will choose to go through those experiences of mine again, because this is who I am today(Remember earlier I said of how these are opportunities). I may have perceptions about things, some might be right , some might be wrong….but in the end, look at us , we are humans, bound to make mistakes , but what defines us is how we cope up with them…same way it works for others too….we are in college, so its an opportunity for us to learn from them. Just as a girl who is learning to ride scooty learns ki break lagane break se ho hote h, naki apne paer se :P ( I know yaha galian padengi mujhe ki ladki hoke ladkio ka hi mazak bana ri :P),she might go on falling or the other bad thing might be happening,till she actually learns it the proper way. So the same way , we were meant to go through them because we weren’t so right about it the first time. And lets say you let the person into your life,and if they come back(and if they won't its their loss at loosing such an awesome person as you), what might possibly go bad now? You have had your experience and you dealt with it and now of-course you will be careful.In fact you will be careful even with other people. Some of you who will still be upset with their favourite person or that internship opportunity….hey lad! Cheer up….what about the next person or the next opportunity, you have all the knowledge and the first hand experience to nail it this time….and who knows it might be even better than before? :P
If I am to conclude(which I probably should, coz I have been writing for too long :P) then it is okay for us to have expectations as we are bound to. Only way not to have is to cut off from everything entirely and we know Man is a social animal, so its not that much possible…. but we can try to keep it as low as possible. Even if along the way, our expectations hurt us,it is how we choose to react that matters and that is what defines our mental well-being, more than anything. And along with these expectations comes a chance to become a stronger and a much more mature version of yourself.
Also, this is my way of dealing with situations, Yours might have been different or same, depending on what the situation and people,so there is no right or wrong. Also for my extra eager friends, I just wanted to write coz I have grown so frustrated with this lockdown, plus I have a thing for anything slightly associated with literature :P, so that’s why, this topic(Plus this is what everyone goes thru, so it might help me to attract more readers and keep them glued till the end :P) . Also by giving my reason for writing, I am giving off my chance to know who are my near and dear ones interested in my life. And tbh I really don’t want to give off this chance, so I would really love it if I get to hear it from you all! :D :D Love You loads! ❤❤ Buhbieee… :D :D
